June 8th- Election Day

Today I am hoping that unlike with the last election and BREXIT, that tomorrow I will wake up singing to the News that we have a good government. A government that wants to help all, won’t strip or cut and won’t turn this beautiful country into a dictatorship. 

I am nervous, sick to my stomach as I write this. So much damage has been done to people so like myself since the conservatives have been in power and it’s been a scary ride. It hurts me that Labour maybe won’t get as many votes due to the reputation Tony Blair installed into the party. And it annoys me profusely that people won’t vote or educate themselves enough to vote on their own. 

I am nervous for my future lecturers, for my past teachers who won’t be paid as much, nervous for if I or my sisters get sick as we can’t afford to pay for healthcare if the NHS goes private. I have met so many tourists living in a tourist town and working in retail there, that I am told time and time again how lucky we are to have these things. To have a democracy and free healthcare and protection of the people, but I fear all that will change on the morning of June 9th. 

Tomorrow won’t be a matter of ‘young people not voting’ everyone my age I know has already voted today. The majority of them have voted Labour or Lib Dem. But just like with BREXIT, we are preparing ourselves for a social media attack on us ‘Lazy Millenials’, who actually have to work non stop to get things that we want. 

I fear there will be riots, I fear we will end up in the same position we were in during the last UK riots where things were set on fire, people were injured and people moved. There’s so many people who are seeking social justice and a pure government and I fear that tomorrow we may not get that. 

I am hoping sincerely that tomorrow has a good outcome. I am scared for my younger siblings and cousins. I want to hold them and carry them to another country to protect them and give them somewhere safe to grow up. 
Please vote today. And please vote well. 

Don’t Rewrite or Invalidate 

Having your feelings invalidated is one of the worst feelings in the world. You end up feeling gaslighted, paranoid and completely alone in the way that you feel. People have a habit of not being able to accept responsibility for their own actions and what they have caused for you- so what they do instead is try to rewrite your experiences with their own, and invalidate your feelings in the process by twisting or not giving an accurate description of the truth or the event. 

It’s one of those things that happens to everyone, and every immature, irresponsible person does this when they can’t just simply apologise. I guess you’re thinking this most occurs with relationships, but these days it’s parents and children where this occurs the most. 

For Millenials, a lot of Childhoods were screwed up. There was an increase in divorce, technology and step families, the three things combined can lead a child/teenager to feel pushed out by their own families and feel like they are on their own. They would rather stay on their phones or computers all day than socialise with their own blood- due to the tricky feelings and emotions they have to deal with. From my experience, when you try to communicate with your elders, your feelings are irrelevant. Children are simply not meant to be appreciated, they are there to obey and behave. With these kids not being able to speak out or communicate properly, they become passive aggressive, riddled with anxiety, depressed and violent. It’s one of the reasons why the Mental Health in the U.K. and America has increased profusely. Families do not have a strong foundation like they used to have, and children are just supposed to accept that, nobody helps them deal with that or makes them feel close or safe after that. 

In relationships, only unhealthy or broken ones, gaslighting is a huge error that can break a person and sadly, it happens far too much. The other person starts ghosting you or acting distant, and you want to communicate correctly because you don’t want to argue. But when you address your discomfort at the issue, an argument forms. You are told you are many negative things, called a psycho or ungrateful and then when you start to feel paranoid or angry at yourself, that one person is the person there to pick you up. Or, you are left to stew in your feelings of self hate. Both are unhealthy scenarios. The first one is something I have experienced first hand, and you are scared of leaving the person but at the same time, you are scared of if they stay. You are trapped mentally and emotionally and you don’t feel strong enough to take that on. The second one can be dealt with better, just with time. But for a lot of people for the first scenario, they stay with that person. 

People can easily invalidate your feelings because it upsets them or makes them feel guilty by admitting to what happened- they are full of cowardice to just apologise or work through it. These people don’t communicate, they have a need to control and for power, they need to interfere and try to twist your own life and what happened to you. 

It’s something which happens a lot in emotional and mentally abusive relationships- the person just can’t escape because they feel weak as somebody else is rewriting their feelings for them. They aren’t entitled to freedom or freedom of emotion. 

For anyone out there who feels invalidated by somebody else, fuck them. You are entitled to feel as you want, if you’re angry at something that happened five years ago because nobody helped you, rage about it. You are allowed to be angry. You are allowed to feel hurt and betrayed by people close to you and you shouldn’t feel guilty for that. If you’re upset that nobody will listen to you, find somebody else to talk to who is more with your time. There are good, solid people out there. And they are hard to find, but once you find them, it’s so worth it. 

It’s Nerd Time: My Video Game Top 5 

I’ll be honest, I was having severe Bloggers Block, then I started playing Grand Theft Auto San Andreas again so I thought I would tell you all about my favourite Video Games. I’m a huge video game fan, particularly of open world games and they are so enjoyable as well as being a huge part of Diversion. I will start with number 5. 

5. The Sims 

I adore the Sims. I’ve been playing the Sims since the first game and the only reason it’s number 5 is because it’s PC based and simulation games aren’t rated by others as much. I also go through fits and stages with Sims. I’ll play non stop for about six months and then stop- and fall in love with it again the next year or something. My favourite Sims Game would have to be Sims 2, by far. I’m absolutely gutted I can’t play this game anymore as it only works on Windows XP. All the stories and conspiracy theories from the Sims 2, such as who kidnapped Bella? Are the reasons why that game is the absolute best. If you can’t get Sims 2 to work on your system; the good news is that the Sims Life Stories, Pet Stories and Castaway Stories are all laptop friendly and will work on any laptop system other than MAC. If you enjoy open world roaming; you will adore the Sims 3. If you want to get a little bit more creative in build mode, the Sims 4 is the one for you. 

4. Grand Theft Auto: 5 

Let’s be honest, in 2013 everyone was crazy over the release of this game. People were queing at Midnight outside Game just to get a sweet taste of Rockstars’ longest developing game to date. With the new additions of three main protagonists, the options were endless. We are aquainted with Hood Rat from behind the Grove, Franklyn who is rumoured to be CJ Johnson’s Son from San Andreas. However, due to his position in GTA Five, more people presume he is related to Sweet Johnson. Then there’s Michael, a billionaire who is living the witness protection program life up in Rockford Hills. His Trophy Wife Amanda is sleeping with the Tennis Coach, his Daughter Tracey is desperate for some 90210 action and his son Jimmy is useless and trying his hardest to be an irritant. Adding the family aspect to the game made it more realistic, but also a view from a higher class system. Then there’s Trevor; completely mentally unstable, definitely a socio-psychopath with attachment obsession issues. However, it was super fun to play. Spoiler: you have to kill one of them off at the end. I killed Trevor because he was annoying. 

3. Life is Strange 

Life is strange is based on the butterfly effect- the effect where every action creates another consequence and so the cycle continues. Set in a high school, the Game follows Max Caulfield, a photography student, who has the ability to rewind time and stop certain things from happening which causes a Storm. You meet several memorable characters, including the lovely Chloe who makes you instantly want to dye your hair blue. The game will make you cry and has the worst Villain in the world, but it’s a game that will change you and the way you look at things for a while. 

2. LA Noire 

LA Noire is an incredible game and switches the border between movies and games. You follow a 1940’s cop as he solves Mysteries around L.A. It’s like GTA, but it’s more interactive, it’s based around an old Noir film which is where the game gets its deserved title. 

1. Sleeping Dogs 

Sleeping Dogs is an open world game set in Hong Kong where you are an undercover cop named Wei Shen, your job is to infiltrate the triads where you reunite with your old friends, whilst doing your job. The location research took six months for sleeping Dogs and it’s so worth it. Give it a quick google, the graphics are incredible. 

So there is a quick post about my favourite games of all time, I’ll be doing some more in detail but for now, that is my reccomendation list. Comment below if you’ve played any of these!

Prayers for Manchester 

I am heartbroken to say that in the nine months I have been blogging, I have had to write two of these posts. Two barbaric, ugly terrorist attacks in my country and in such a short time. 

Last night, just after 10:30, two bombs went off in Manchester Arena after an Ariana Grande concert had just finished. People took to twitter to talk about it, to say they are safe, to say they are unsure of what had happened. 

Citizen Footage shows the streets packed with concert goers, running out afraid for their lives. The majority of these were people between the ages 14-23. 22 fatalities have occurred, with only one young girl having been named. To all those families who will receive bad news today, I am so sorry for your loss. 

We live on such a beautiful planet, but such an ugly world. My prayers and thoughts are with everyone effected and I hope you recover mentally as well as physically. Those who we have sadly lost, I hope you rest in peace, angels. 

All Britain can do is sadly carry on. We have no choice, we must live our lives as normal and just continue with our routines. Today we unite as a country and remember those effected. 

To The Left: I stand with Labour

I was going to make this personal and tell you why I’m personally voting Labour, but then I realised it doesn’t matter. Unless you have experienced what I have, even by reading, you won’t understand any way. My views may be controversial and I am welcome to debate in the comments, but my opinion is my own and one I am welcome to have due to the fact the UK is a democratic country.

Personally, with the General Election, for me it’s to get the Conservatives OUT. I stand for tory values and morals and I respect them. If it wasn’t for the fact there are people and leaders at the top criminalising the party and acting corrupt, then I would not be as frightened and as desperate for Labour to get in. Currently I’m stressed and worried about my future, because if the Conservatives get in again, I might as well say goodbye to any hopes of ever succeeding in my chosen career path. I would vote Green Party if I felt like they would get in- but they won’t. For me, you either have to choose Conservative or Labour, as the other parties simply do not stand a chance. Green Party is a wonderful party, but appear overly hopeful to some which puts the public off voting. Liberal Democrats are a great option when you’re voting in a Tory Safe Seat in a local election, but not for a general election. Nick Clegg ruined Lib Dem’s reputation by going into coalition with the Tories, which is a shame as Tim Farron could be a brilliant leader. I’m not even going to comment on the atrocity that is UKIP.

You see, the Tories want to capitalise on everything from making our NHS private and increasing University Tuition, ensuring that only the ‘cream of the crop’ will be able to have access to these things. This means that our society is headed for more inequality than ever before. The middle class is even struggling, with rumours that with two more years of Tory leadership, people who are now classed as middle class will be working class.  The thing is, with BREXIT coming into play, things are set for a drastic turn as for a short while, things may be more expensive whilst the UK tries to cut deals and settles in to being independent. However it’s a short while, it’s going to seem long for families who are already on the burden of struggle and have to budget to get ahead.

We are already experiencing a decline in hospital beds, a lack of funding for mental health services supported by the NHS and junior doctors are going on strike as the hefty hours just do not add up. I’m voting Labour for my NHS, I’m voting it for the nurses that saved my Mother and my Sister. I’m voting for CAMHS which is losing so much funding and is overbooked. I’m voting for the doctors that work hard and bring their work home with them, because an hour away is dangerous to the system which is slacking under so much pressure. When a human is exhausted, we sleep. When an institution, a service is exhausted, it shuts down.

I’m also voting Labour because Jeremy Corbyn wants to help fund special needs schools. He also spends a lot of time with disabled and ill children, reading to them, getting to know them and realising that they are a part of society. Now to me, that is incomparable next to the Conservative MP who said that “Disabled Children should be sent straight to the guillotine.” How can we allow a Government with members spitting out things like that to lead us? We can’t. The Conservatives the way they are going are heading for something similar to a dictatorship. Their slogan, “Strong and Stable” comes from Mein Kampf, by no other than Dictator Adolf Hitler. It concerns me that these signs are not being highlighted and it’s Labour that is being interrogated by the Media, when they are the party that want to raise more equality and equal opportunities for everyone. As their slogan stands, “For the many, not the few.”

Labour also want to make housing more accessible. We are struggling with putting British people into houses because a lot of houses are being bought by the rich and then rented out for a larger price to immigrants who need a place to stay in this country. And in a way, the people that move here are being ripped off as the Home Owners get a bigger profit from abusing their ignorance. So not only are more people homeless because houses are being taken three at a time, but also Immigrants are being double charged, which isn’t fair when they contribute to this country.

Corbyn states that we wants to get rid of Zero Hour Contracts. These contracts are creating issues for people in terms of work. People are getting into minimum wage employment just so they can earn money as finding a job in this day and age is tough. However, most of these contracts are zero hour and work isn’t always guaranteed. I have worked a zero hour contract in the past and some weeks the work is little, you could be working five hours on minimum wage for that week. But the next you could be doing forty and be completely unprepared. Either way, you are told to be flexible but work is never guaranteed. Also with these contracts, you aren’t entitled to breaks which exhausts the body and mind and can lead to poor mental health.

Furthermore, Corbyn introducing four more bank holidays will mean that people can spend more times with their families. But also, stores and franchises that are open on these bank holidays will have more money come in and people who work there will have extra hours, if on a five-ten hour contract. He is considering family time and well being as well as the general consensus of going to work each day and ‘labouring’ to live. He has the correct balance us Brits need to be happier and more well-rounded.

It’s worth remembering for students that Corbyn wants to scrap tuition fees, as part of one of their flagship pledges.  This pledge stretches even further than his original pledge to scrap tuition fees from 2018 under Labour Leadership. This has been created to discourage students from avoiding further Education until after these fees are abolished. It is said that this is part of a £38 billion movement on fees, where tax is increased for the wealthiest 10% and reversing Tory cuts. As well as this, Corbyn will restore the maintenance grants which were turned into loans under David Cameron’s Conservative Government. This is in tandem with Shadow Education Secretary Angela Rayner who states “Labour believes everyone should have the chance to further their studies, not just those that can afford it, and we will restore the principle that education is free.”

Education is something which people in third world countries yearn for. And lets not forget that Malala Yousafzai was shot for protesting for female education and we are lucky to have so much access in the UK, particularly under a labour government. Most people are put off University because of the amount of debt that they will be in after they graduate, however, this will encourage more people to work towards their goals and further their education, maybe even up to Masters.

Currently, under a Conservative government, pensioners are at risk of losing their money. We are at risk of losing our free healthcare, our precious NHS. The disabled and the mentally ill are getting no help or support, and when they are their services are over booked and slacking. The Conservatives are avoiding looking at social care and putting funding into that. So the question stands, where is Conservative Funding actually going? It is going on dropping bombs on innocent countries that need us and then rejecting their refugee children when they need us for asylum. It’s going on scrapping free school meals and increasing University Fees and creating loans instead of grants. It’s going on taking cuts for funding from Schools all around the country. It’s going on people losing their disability money. It is all a joke. If those people are the people who are supposedly getting the Tory’s backing, then why is that occurring? Where is Theresa May putting this money?

Before you vote, and you have six hours to register, please remember what you’re voting for. No matter who your family or friends are voting for, please look at some manifesto’s and decide for yourself. And please make it a decision that is going to make Britain the country it deserves to be. I’m standing with the many, because under a Conservative government, I’ll never be one of the few.





My LUSH Haircare Routine

About a month ago I spilled the beans on what my favourite products from Lush were, following that I decided to do a post based on my current hair care routine which is all around Lush products. I have thick, dip dyed hair and so it’s hard to take care of. I try to keep my colour vibrant, keep it nourished and soft, as well as avoiding any damage and strengthening the hair route. 

This post is purely just about the two products I use to wash my hair with, as haircare starts in the shower and it’s probably the most important part of styling. These products are incredible and whereas one is fairly new to me, the other has been a god send since the moment I first bought it three years ago. Obviously Lush isn’t that affordable to many people, so you don’t have to use these products every day. One of these products I use every other day and the other one I use just once a month for a hair treat. 

Jason and the Argan Oil Solid Shampoo Bar: £6.95 

This shampoo bar will last me about four months and lathers incredibly well. This is my first experience with lush shampoo and it’s one I’m sure to continue. Due to its lasting power, a solid shampoo bar is an investment as I get through a 250ml bottle of shampoo a week, usually retailing around £2-£3.50. So although it may be pricey at first, I’m actually saving £32 in four months just by not buying that weekly bottle of shampoo. And yes, going through that much shampoo isn’t great for your hair and is crazy, but I also use shampoo as shaving foam and I have long, thick hair. What I like about this solid shampoo is the way you can just move it around in your hands to create a lather and then run it through your hair. It lathers so quickly and so much, that after a week and a half, the product hasn’t lost shape like a bar of soap has. You can also apply it straight to the scalp as it’s a soft texture, not hard, but I prefer to run it through my hands. 

It has LUSH’s ‘Rose Jam’ scent and the scent stays in your hair until the next wash. As it includes ingredients such as Argan Oil, it is incredibly moisturising and nourishing and this is felt the minute the shampoo is rinsed out. 

After having my hair dry, my hair had fallen into soft, gentle waves and were incredibly shiny. I couldn’t believe how soft and sleek my hair was and it had an unbelievable smoothness that I was yearning for. I used to waste my money on 3 for £10 Aussie Offers, but after using this I won’t be turning back. 

American Cream Conditioner- £14.95 

Hefty price tag, but I only buy this ONCE a year. I only use this once a month, which means it lasts for the price tag. It’s a thin conditioner for thick hair which smells of strawberry milkshake and vanilla pods. It has lavender oil and clary sage extract which is refreshing and soothing for the scalp. Whereas this is a thin conditioner, it is incredibly nourishing and spreads evenly over hair completely covering it. The first time I used this, I used it daily and whereas my hair was sleek and grew incredibly fast with this conditioner, the scent can be quite overpowering for the every day. 

I like to use this conditioner as a hair masque once a month and I leave it on while I’m in the bath. I keep it in for about an hour to an hour and a half and when I rinse, my hair feels well nourished and when dry, my hair is instantly radiant and brighter with my ends smoothed out and flyaways sealed into my hair. When I have dip dyed my hair, I’ve noticed that using this conditioner makes the colour more vivid. I will do a separate post on my hair colour and everything, but these two products together really encourage my colour to stay and be nice to me. 

I bought that bottle back in August 2016 and it’s now May 2017. After you try this for the first time, you will want to re purchase and re purchase. No other hair masque comes close and it’s not even mean to be a hair masque. Occasionally I’ll even use a little as a leave in conditioner when my ends are frizzy and it smells amazing all day. 

DISCLAIMER: This blog post or my blog is not sponsored by LUSH Cosmetics in any way. 

Ladies Essential Guide: Tips and Advice 

So as a young female, I thought I would share some tips and advice with my fellow sisters about a fair few things which can be life savers and just make you feel good in general. When you’re having a good skin day you can feel on top of the world so there’s some tips for that and also some advice for particular hard times.

1. Coconut Oil 

For all things. For a multi purpose beauty product that is going to save you money and do everything for you. Use it as a hot oil cleanser, use it to remove makeup, use it in your hair to make it grow, use it as a hair masque, use it on your legs to make them super soft and smooth. Use it in your cooking for a healthier result, use it as a lip balm. Coconut Oil should only be used if it’s extra virgin, as the other types contain damaging chemicals and perfume which can crack the skin, dry your lips and cause split ends in your hair.

2. Carry Spare Clothes 

This is always an essential. You never know when your period might magically appear or what could happen if you go to a guy’s house. Carrying spare clothes is a god send and you will always be prepared. Even if it’s just spare underwear incase of leakages or a spare t shirt, it’s the way forward.

3. Eat Healthily 

Honestly a biiiigggg one. Eating Healthily improves your mood more than most things it’s not just a fitness thing. When your body is happy, mind is happy too and also you’re less likely to bloat. If you girls are anything like me, when you eat a tiny amount you bloat, it’s one of those things that is unfair but something that makes us. I try to follow the five a day rule but snacking on fruit throughout the day usually keeps me full and happy to go.

4. Rebel Atleast Once 

I used to be a girl that followed the rules completely straight then fell off the path when I was irritated by life. When I did fall off that path, I learned so many things which have reflected on me every day and have made me make sensible decisions and flourish into a woman who knows what she wants and how to get it. I think following the rules is important as a kid, but when you get to around eighteen years of age, you need to rebel at least once to see life on the other side of the tracks and remind yourself what’s important.

5. Tea Tree Oil 

This is something my mum has drilled into me for years, probably since I was about eight. If ever there’s a pimple or a spot about to flourish, dab a little tea tree oil on it and it will go away!

6. Ignore Bitches 

I spent most of my high school life trying to be like the ‘popular girls’. I wished I was skinny like them, I wished I had a better social life like them. But now I’m really glad I’m myself and not like them. Life is tough and girls are in particular, the judgement and bitchiness from many is part of the reason insecurity is so huge. But if somebody is saying bad things or causing an atmosphere, ignore them. For it’s totally not worth judging yourself based on the opinion of ‘sheep’.

7. Have something to Believe in 

Life can get tough and for females there’s a lot of comparisons made and a lot of feeling worthless and not good enough. Everyone is worth something to somebody, everyone is worth something to the world. Having something to believe in honestly makes the darker times seem so much lighter and better, a weight off your chest as you know it’s bound to get better. Whether it’s religion, fate, spirituality or just in yourself or the people around you, it’s so vital to have something you can have faith in.

8. Read A Book 

From time to time, it’s amazing what getting indulged in a good book can do. It can enlighten your world and make you think deeply about certain things which can improve the way you think about things. I like getting stuck into a crime drama, but sometimes also a romantic drama like ‘David Nicholls’ One Day’. Seeing yourself reflected in a character can also do extraordinary things for an ego boost and for your self confidence.

9. Drink Water

Drinking Water is honestly the gift that keeps on giving. It solves so many problems and all at once. It clears your skin, gets rid of bloat, flushes out your toxins and can also keep you fuller for longer. When you’re tired, drinking water helps keep you energised and ready to go, as well as hydrating you and keeping you healthy.

10. Never Settle

If a guy or friend isn’t treating you well, leave. Honestly in this one life we have, you deserve to be treated exactly how you want to be, and you don’t have to put up with anything less. Obviously if you’re demanding or being manipulative towards these people, they aren’t going to treat you well. But as long as you treat somebody well, you deserve the same back with respect.

11. Baby Oil

If you can’t afford coconut oil and are looking for a quick fix perfect moisturiser, use baby oil. Have a shower or bath, splash it on after and then towel dry. Your skin will be silky smooth and ready to go. I have used baby oil for years and people always comment on how soft my skin is. Johnsons’ do many versions of this, I always use the baby bedtime because of the dreamy lavender scent. It’s also really good as a bath oil for extra luxury!

12. Handbag Essentials

In your handbag, always carry spare deodorant; a spare t-shirt; body mist, tampons and lip balm. These things always come in handy, but are also great for emergencies and you never know what could happen in the day before you go and meet your friends in the evening.

13. Slow Down

As somebody with a tendency to act on adrenaline and think fast, do fast and not really think things through and end up overthinking, it is essential for me to slow down. Before you do things or say things, really think through what you’re about to do and don’t act on impulse. If your heart is beating a hundred miles an hour and you feel you are drowning, take a minute. Catch your breath. You have time for yourself, even if it’s three minutes of time.

14. Have a Playlist for every Emotion

Growing up, us females go through many things. I think it’s essential during these moments to have a playlist for each mood. It just makes time go a little softer and help us heal during these moments. I’m a pop punk person but even so, I had some heavier stuff on my ‘angry’ playlist and some absolute bangers on my ‘happy’ playlist. The Killers’ ‘Mr Brightside’ goes on both of those, of course.

15. Condition, and Regularly

Conditioning hair is honestly one of life’s most satisfying things. The moment when you wash your hair and detangle it and let it dry is just so lovely. Knowing you have fresh, soft hair can really give you a life upgrade you didn’t even know you had.

16. Don’t Over-Pluck

For real, we have all been there. One of my friends used to tell me off for over plucking my brows and I’m so glad she did. Your eyebrows are still meant to look like brows, not little lines on your face. I used to be a serious over-plucker and honestly the regrets I have looking at old photos.

17. Don’t Hold Grudges

Honestly it just causes more drama than it’s worth and it never solves anything. You are better off just forgiving and forgetting although it’s much easier said than done. If I held a grudge against everyone that did me wrong, I would have no mental energy left. Talk through things with people if they are worth the time, if not, forget about them. Ignore them, but be civil.

18. VOTE

The suffragettes didn’t risk their health or their lives just so us girls could, years later, not vote. It’s our civil right to vote, because we owe them. Their actions allowed us Women to have choice and democracy. Something many of us take for granted now.

19. Treat Yo’Self

For real. I’m talking the whole hog. Literally want that dress you saw? Buy it without regrets. Sometimes a purchase is good for the soul and that doesn’t mean being materialistic is a bad thing, as long as money isn’t making you go crazy or manipulative than it’s all good. The other day I spent £60 at Lush and although I probably won’t eat for a week, I feel good about it and like I’ve indulged and been good to myself.

20. Improve Yourself

If there’s something you dislike about yourself, work to change it. Learn a new hobby if you’re getting a bit bored. Life is short, but that doesn’t mean it has to limit you to what you ‘already know’. You can do anything you put your mind to.